It is very normal to make mistakes. But in our time, making mistakes is considered a terrible thing. As such, people get very uncomfortable when they make mistakes. Also, some people subconsciously think that mistakes are a weakness. That’s why some people have a hard time admitting their mistakes. In this post you will learn why people never accept their mistakes. We will also talk about the negative effects of this situation.
Everyone May Seem Perfect but the Truth Is…
Now people interact with each other much more. Especially with the spread of social media, almost everyone can easily have information about the lives of the people around them. But this situation can mislead people a little. Because people prefer to share only the best moments of their lives.
In this case, everyone can seem perfect. People can also feel guilty when they make mistakes in such situations. Because it hurts to make mistakes when the people around them seem so perfect. But just like success, failure is a very normal thing.
Is It Possible to Make No Mistakes
Unfortunately, it is impossible not to make any mistakes. Even if it were possible, it would not be a healthy situation. Because people learn from their mistakes and try not to repeat them. These behaviors lead them to success.
Making small mistakes and learning from them prevents people from making bigger mistakes. It can even be useful to make mistakes when you think about it this way. What matters is how you learn from your mistakes and how they affect your life.
Trying not to make any mistakes will stress you out. As we all know, stress that exceeds reasonable levels negatively affects our lives. So don’t try to avoid making mistakes. Instead, try to minimize your mistakes. You should also focus on reducing the damage of your mistakes.
Apologizing Does Not Mean Admitting the Mistake
Sometimes people prefer to say “I’m sorry for hurting you” rather than “I was wrong”. In such cases, people focus on making things right with the people they hurt. Actually, this kind of apology does not mean that the mistake is accepted.
Even if people do not admit their mistakes, they can apologize for hurting the other person. But the important thing is that people should admit their mistake. Also, people should learn from them and accept responsibility. It is not a very healthy situation to apologize just to save the day and relieve the resentment of the other person. Because people who apologize just to fix the situation tend to make the same mistakes. Just apologizing is not enough unless you learn from your mistakes.
Why People Never Accept Their Mistakes
We said that people feel weak when they admit their mistakes. But sometimes people may not admit their mistakes because of their psychological disorders.
Take narcissistic people, for example. Narcissistic people constantly want to highlight their own strengths and achievements. For them, the most important thing in life is themselves. People with this type of personality consider themselves very successful. Therefore, admitting that they made a mistake is a great destruction for them.
Sometimes couples can be very accusatory towards each other during an argument. In such cases, a reflex may occur between spouses. In order not to feel guilty all the time, people may not want to admit their mistakes. That’s why we recommend that you avoid being too accusatory when arguing with people close to you. Because constantly blaming the other person makes it difficult for them to admit their mistakes.
In addition, people with low emotional intelligence have a hard time admitting their mistakes. Because people with emotional intelligence have the ability to empathize and can understand the feelings of the other person. Such people avoid offending others and take responsibility for their mistakes. Therefore, low emotional intelligence may also be a reason for not admitting a mistake.
The human brain is a very complex structure. The brain is constantly focused on surviving and protecting itself against external dangers. As such, it protects itself against some psychological attacks.
For example, let’s say you made a mistake at home. When your spouse wants you to face this mistake, you will have two options. Either you want to admit your mistake and make up for it, or you don’t accept it, preferring to conflict. When some mistakes are too big to be forgiven, partners never admit their mistakes to avoid negative consequences.
People’s brains create a defense mechanism in such situations to protect itself and avoid negative consequences. After that, people start to lie.
We all make mistakes. We will do it for the rest of our lives. The important thing is to learn from our mistakes. Also, if we learn from our mistakes, they become positive concepts for us. Therefore, instead of avoiding responsibility, we should accept our mistakes and focus on reducing their negative effects. In addition to all these, it is possible to learn from the mistakes of more experienced people. Because, as Eleanor Roosevelt said, none of us live enough.
So how often do you make mistakes? How do you feel when you make a mistake? Do you easily admit your mistakes? If you have any further questions or comments, please feel free to contact us in the comments section.